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Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it.

Psalm 127:1a

Jeni,

As you and Jeremy prepare over the next months to begin your life together as husband and wife, it’s clear that you both have a firm foundation—Christ, The Solid Rock.

Psalm 127:1 is a well-known verse.  But we often fail to grasp its simple, yet profound truth.  Our foundations are often secure.  Both Christians.  Check.  However, we forget that unless Christ is building, the house is comin’ down.

Today, I want to share with you how not to tear down your house that Christ is building.

The following is from my post She nagged and she nagged and tore her whole house down written a year ago.

Every wise woman buildeth her house:  but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.  Proverbs 14:1

A foolish woman tears her own house down.  Why would a woman tear down her house?

Unlike the Big Bad Wolf in the story of The Three Little Pigs who fully intends to blow down those houses when he huffs and he puffs, most of us women don’t realize what we are doing when we nag and complain about our husbands.

I’ll be honest.  I’ve been guilty.  I’m ashamed to say it.  But I have basically torn my husband apart with my own mouth.  As women, we need each other to confide in, to share our hearts, our cares, our concerns, our frustrations.  And that can often mean unloading a bit about our husbands.  We need to be honest.  We need to be real.  I believe that’s healthy.  After all, we can work with honestly.  But if we’re not careful, we will turn our sounding boards that we call friends into dumping ground for pinned up anger and often bitterness we hold towards our husbands.

As Christian women, we need to encourage one another to be honest and real about those little foxes that can sneak into our marriage vines and attempt to spoil them.  Together, we can learn how to catch those sneaky foxes.  Let’s validate each others feelings without enabling the destruction of our own homes.

And most of all, let’s remember that as we concentrate on building rather than tearing down:  Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it.  Psalm 127:  1a

I’d like to start by saying, Joe, I realize that all of my nag, nag, nagging has been equivalent to building a house with stick or straw.  I don’t want to tear you down!  I love you!  And I’m thankful for your faithfulness, hard work and patience with our marriage and our home.  You are THE BEST HUSBAND EVER!  Oh…and thanks for always letting me drink the rest of your Diet Coke.  Your Angel

…A wise woman builds her house upon the ROCK…